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Learning a Bunch From One of my Favorite Aunties! by Audrey Jeanne Roberts

Not every "young" woman is lucky enough to have an older & wiser aunt that knows just about everything about the internet, but I do.  My Aunt Nancy taught me so much today that my head's still spinning!!!!  We had so much fun cruising all her favorite sites with tools to improve my presence on the internet.  She's such a sharing and giving woman, I'm soooo blessed!  Today was the first time I've seen her in 32 years and she hasn't changed a bit!  We forgot to take our camera today, but will take it tomorrow and I brought my digital so I can probably upload a picture.

One of the first things she taught me is that when I link to someone to turn the link blue and underline it so everyone can find it more easily!  Just ONE of her websites is www.nancys-kitchen.com.  If you need a recipe for ANYTHING you can find it on her site or request it from her members and it will show up magically over the next week.  If you're a serious cook, or just love to cook, I'd encourage you to sign up for her daily newsletter.  I could gain 10 pounds just READING the recipes!  I'm going to be sending her some sunflower art to update the "decor" of another of her sites (address of which I don't know off hand!)  And as if she doesn't have enough to do already, she's talking about doing a pet website as well!

We had a good day with the family and spent lots of time with my Aunt Betty and Uncle "Buddy," and a little time with my dear Uncle John.  He was sharp and as always, selfless and caring.  He took time to encourage Jacqui that she would do great on her test tomorrow and that he was very, very proud of her.  We cried, we laughed, we hugged and we'll see him again tomorrow morning before we go home.  They live in an airstrip development where everyone flies, has an airplane hanger and shares the runway.  The association changed the name of the airfield to the John W. Rogers airstrip in his honor.

I know you all know this, but if you love someone, take time to tell them frequently.  Call someone that you haven't talked to in a while.  If you have a "fence" that needs mending, there's no time like the present.  Life can make abrupt shifts and leave you with little time to tell those you love how much you do. 

We talked about that with Uncle Johnny today.  He wanted so much to be here to mentor Jacqui further in her flying and expressed that to her.  Even though he couldn't, she'll carry that blessing in her heart forever.  "Words of Love left unspoken have no power at all, but words of love expressed and shared encourage our hearts forever," is a quote from my "To Build a Lasting Love" poem and today I saw their reality more clearly than ever before.  Don't let another day go by without telling someone how much you love them… in fact, if you're not already, get in the habit EVERYDAY of telling "I Love You" to your loved ones.  None of us knows the number of our day, only God alone. 

So, by the way, I want to tell you that I love so many of you readers.  You have encouraged me with your comments, held me up in your prayers and helped me through each day in ways you'll never know.  Hugs to each of you.

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

The Digital Clip art by Audrey Jeanne Roberts, Blog Contest Ends Today!

Just a quick reminder, if you haven't taken time to post some comments through this month's blog posts, that's how you earn entries in the drawing. 

prize previewHere's the prize that the winner will receive.  My new kit (that isn't even out yet!) the Perfectly Peachy 2.  You'll have to wait until I get home from Arizona though Bye, I know it will be hard to wait!

We arrived at 3:30 AM and my "baby" girl woke us up by piling on us at 7:30 AM, she couldn't wait any longer to see us, so we're nursing our first cup of coffee to get us through the day. 

Tomorrow Jacqui has her FAA oral exam and then her FAA check ride for her private pilot's license.  We're keeping our fingers and toes crossed and praying hard!!!  She's nervous and wishes she could have one more flight to practice her maneuvers before the check ride!

We'll go see my Uncle Johnny, Aunt Betty (his wife) and my Aunt Nancy and Uncle Bud who are visiting their brother.  Aunt Nancy is the one with the awesome website and newsletter with recipes.  www.nancys_kitchen.com check it out if you love to cook!

I'll take some pictures if it's appropriate later when we go visit.  Hugs to all,

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

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When Life Isn’t Fair…by Audrey Jeanne Roberts

It is a cry that every child utters at one point or another at their parent, "That's not fair!" or it's variant "You're not fair!"  We are each born with an innate sense of fairness which is usually of course, applied to everyone but ourselves!  As a mom, I've told my children since before they were old enough to comprehend my words that, "Life isn't fair… you need to know it, deal with it and get past it if you're going to be successful."

For some reason we seem to never quite get past that concept and when life throws us a curve… something really unfair and really devastating, we often throw a pouting, pity-party temper-tantrum at our Heavenly Father that is every bit as spectacular as our children threw at us. 

Life isn't fair.  We live in a broken world that we share with broken people who sometimes do terrible things to one another.  We also live in a world that is filled with disease and bodies that break down with wear and tear.  Death still reigns supreme at a virtually 1 to 1 ratio with only 2 men recorded as getting out of this world any other way (Enoch a man that walked with God and then God took him, and the prophet Elijah who was carried to heaven in a fiery chariot).  Death, disease and evil deeds came to this earth because of sin, and they affect those that seek after God and those that don't, equally as much.  As I might add so also do blessings… God say's "I pour out the rain on the just and the unjust alike."

Why am I bringing this up right now?  Because I am leaving home tomorrow to go visit my wonderful Uncle Johnny for the last time.  He is a sweet, funny, kind, amazing man who became my uncle through my step-father Joe Rogers.  He came into my life late, but accepted me as though I were his own.  He has been filling a mentoring role in my daughter's life this past year.  She has lived near them to go to Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University where she is studying to get her Commercial Pilot's License.  He is a pilot and has been a flight instructor for decades.

Uncle Johnny and Aunt Betty were never able to have kids — which isn't fair at all.  They would have made the most wonderful parents and have been wonderful to all the children that have been lucky enough to be part of their lives.  He is only in his early 70's and should have many more years to spend with my aunt and us… but will not.

His illness was just diagnosed a couple of weeks ago and at the rate things are happening, we may not have him in a couple of week's time.  It is a hard thing to contemplate.  It is hard both to find comfort and to be prepared to give comfort.

Life isn't fair.  Hard things happen to each of us.  Hard things can break you down and make you bitter or they can lift you up and make you stronger, make you an example to others.  The making or the breaking isn't really in the events themselves, but in our response to them.  How do we choose to face suffering and loss?  What do we choose to hold onto during the rough and stormy seas?  I can tell you from experience that if you do not develop a belief system and struggle with answers to these hard, hard questions when times are calm YOU WILL NOT HAVE THE TIME OR THE ENERGY TO FIGURE THEM OUT WHEN THE SEAS GET STORMY AND LIFE IS UPSIDE DOWN!

I've occasionally been asked by people, "How do you know that God is real?"  Some Christians would point to all their blessings and say, "Look at all the wonderful things He's given me, that's how I know He's real."  But I would point to all the horrible times I've gone through in my lifetime.  I could tell you story after story of God whispering a promise to my heart that looked impossible to come true — but they did.  I would point to the situations that should have destroyed me or my family but instead transformed me from a confused, weak, fearful, cowardly little girl into the woman God is helping me to become.  I would tell you that I know because He has never once failed me, or left me alone to face the trials that I have walked through.  He has walked each one out by my side or has carried me through them when I didn't even have the strength to go on.  And I am confident that He'll carry me through this one.

If you don't know that there's a God, you're not even sure you want to believe that there is, or you're really, really angry at how "unfair" God has been to you, I'd like to invite you to pray a prayer similar to this one:

God, I'm not sure you exist.  I'm not even sure I want to believe in you, but something in my heart longs to believe that there's more to life than all of this.  Please make yourself real to me.  Please show me how much you love and care for me.  I'm really angry about some things that have happened in my life that just aren't fair, and I'm even angry at you because of them  Thank you that you don't reject me because I feel this way, but long to hold me close as a loving father cradles his child.   Show me where my thoughts about you are right and wrong and teach me the truth about who you are and what your plan for my life is.  Amen

I'd also like to send you a hug myself and tell you, I'm praying for you and I care as well.

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

More Pictures From Giant Sequoia National Park & Camping With Kids

I thought I would share some more pictures of the beauty of the park.  Karla has an awesome digital camera and took lots of pictures that I downloaded as well.  I LOVE digital!  We took hundreds of pictures that we wouldn't have if we had to pay for the film and develping costs.  If you don't yet have a digital camera, they are worth the investment to get the best you can afford. 

Steve & Mike inside the tree

This first shot is of Steve and Mike inside the base of a medium-sized Sequoia tree.  The Sequoias have a very thick, spongey bark that protects them in fires.  It feels very strange to the touch.  As you can imagine, to live to be 2,000 years old, these trees have seen many, many fires sweep through the forest. 

The hole that they are standing in is caused by fire burning too long at the base of the tree.  The tree won't die as long as the thin cambrian layer that is between the bark and the core of the tree is intact and can still feed it.

The tree on the ground in front of them fell to the earth earlier in the past century.  A tiny, tiny natural spring undermined the roots and brought down a giant.  You realize just how tall they are when you walk the length of the tree as it lays on the ground!  The wood of these trees is quite brittle and not useful, which makes the logging of them that was done in the 1800's especially tragic.

There are some of these trees that are totally hollow at their base and are cave-like, yet still survive.  They are pretty amazing creations.  There is a tree in the Grant's Grove area that is on the ground and was hollowed out by loggers.  The men used fire to burn out the insides so that they could use it for shelter.  It hasn't changed in more than a hundred years… no rot, no bugs, no decay, amazing! 

red plants in forest

I don't know what these red plants are, but they have and intense red color that stands out against the green of the forest.

They are so bright that you can see them from a hundred feet away.  These were growing alongside the road.  Do any of you know what they are?  If you do, I'd love you to leave a comment telling me.  (Cheryl B. "Angeland" found out that they are called "Snow Flowers."  I believe that they are a type of fungus)

I'd like to encourage those of you with young children (or grandchildren) to consider taking them camping.  Often women just "hate" camping, it's dirty, it's hard work, etc.  But this is one of those things that can mean so much to your children that I encourage you to go past your own discomfort and choose to enjoy it for your kid's sake. 

Dogwood in bloom

It's so funny that we can spend huge amounts of money on expensive vacations that our children hardly remember, and spend almost nothing on a camping vacation that they'll never forget!!!  There's just something really wonderful about exploring together, discovering interesting things in nature and running, jumping and playing in the great outdoors (mosquitos and all!)

Some people feel that they have to have expensive RV's or trailers (they're nice if you can afford them) but camping equipment is very inexpensive and can even be borrowed from friends that have it.  For the cost of a tank or two of gas, the food you would normally eat at home and the minimal daily camping rate at your local State or National Park you can create priceless memories that will last a lifetime.  

This final picture is of the dogwood that grow at the base of the Sequoias in Redwood Canyon.  They are so beautiful.  The picture of the tree doesn't capture the glow of the white blossoms against the shadows of the forest.  This was taken near dusk and the light was quite low.  Oh well… you'll just have to come see for yourself!

Whether you camp or not, take some time to explore the beauties of nature that are all around you!  Also, for those of my readers in the United States, take time this weekend to think about those who have paid the highest price to protect us and to keep the dream that is America alive for the next generation.  Though we are not perfect as a nation, we are a nation that cares about those weaker than ourselves and our soldiers have laid down their lives for many other nations in the world.  If you have a veteran in your life, take time to call him/her and thank them for their service.

Have a great Memorial Day!

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

Saying “Good-bye” is soooooo hard!

To have a friend that you are "soul sisters" with is such a special joy and blessing, and my dear friend Karla is all that and more.  However special that friendship is, add to that the fact that the four of us (her husband Michael and my husband Steve) are every bit as close as couples as we are as girlfriends.  Wow!  What an amazing gift their friendship is.

Hume lake

We drove up to Hume Lake Christian Conference Center on Thursday.  This is the lake and us sitting on the lawn enjoying the scenery and catching up.  There were the three benches in a cluster that we settled into and talked for an hour or more!  The first shot is Karla, then Mike and then Steve and I.  We spent a couple of hours there showing them around the facilities and introducing them to our dear friend Floyd Cornford (see next photo of Floyd and Steve).  If you have read my blog from the beginning you will remember Floyd lost his wife Kathy on June 10th of last year to breast cancer.  Floyd is the friend that we spent Valentine's Day with so that he wouldn't be alone.  The four of us were also dear friends and we all miss her deeply. 

Those of you that pray, please pray for Hume this weekend, there are 8 high school football teams at the camp (over 400 young men) many of them without fathers and from the inner city that will be at a football camp there. 

The coaches mentor these young men and step into that father role in amazing ways.  On average 50-75 young men will meet the Lord for the first time and half will recommit their lives.  The long term impact on their lives is incalculable.

Floyd and Steve

On the way to Hume Lake, we stopped in to Grant's Grove, the home of the 3rd largest living thing on earth, the Grant tree.  Then we took them down into Redwood Canyon where you can walk directly among the trees in the largest Sequoia grove on earth.  The dogwood are blooming there and that part of the park is uncrowded and mostly undiscovered.  Here's a shot of a Giant Sequoia that is digitally compiled from 3 photographs.  The couple in the foreground were just there, she was somewhat handicapped so they we walking quite slow and I liked having them for the perspective.  These trees range up to 310 feet in height and 40 feet in diameter!  There is no way to adequately convey how HUGE they are.  Mike was a logger in his earlier life and the largest diameter tree he felled was 12 feet, he was in a state of constant amazement.  The tree to the immediate left of the couple walking was planted in 1949 and is 58 years old, these trees grow very slowly over long periods of time and most huge ones are over 2,000 years old.

Giant sequoia treeWe convinced them to stay one extra day (we hog tied and tortured them until they gave in!)  We went to a delightful dinner theatre in Fresno called Roger Rocca's and saw "Fiddler on the Roof."  It was a fabulous production… who says small towns can't have culture?!  The only problem with living in the mountains is we didn't get home until 1 AM.  So after a slow start this morning they're off for the second half of their journey and the next visit will have to be ours to their place.

If you have a chance to be out of doors this weekend, take time to drink in the beauty of God's creation and thank Him for being such a wonderful artist.  There is no greater beauty than that of the world He gave us to enjoy and take care of.

Have a great and SAFE Memorial Day Weekend.

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

When Best Friends Visit…

My dear, dear friend, Karla Dornacher (www.karladornacher.com) is also an artist, author and speaker.  She is coming to visit me tomorrow with her husband Michael.  All four of us are great friends and have so much fun together that it's like a long slumber party when we visit!

You can tell my warped sense of priorities in that I've spent all week cleaning up my gardens, and am only now thinking about my house.  But you know someone is a great friend, when you don't have to worry at all about your house when she comes to visit (well, maybe you sweat a little tiny bit about your bathrooms Embarassed).  Because you know she's coming to visit you, not to inspect your cupboards!  We'll talk way too late into the night.  Last time when we visited them at their Washington State home, Michael fell asleep first in his lazy boy, Steve lasted about an hour longer and then drug himself to bed.  The two of us talked until about 2 AM like a couple of teenagers!!!

So, if my posts are a little light over the next few days, IT'S ALL KARLA'S FAULT!

God is totally rearranging Karla's life.  She's beginning to move from artist/author to author/speaker as the focus of her life and ministry.  I have heard her speak several times and she is amazing.  She's deep, she's funny and she speaks profound truths with great simplicity that penetrates the heart.  If your women's group at church is having a retreat or a meeting that you plan to bring a speaker in for, you will not be disappointed.  She speaks with depth of experience, knowledge of God's word and a passion to make a difference in women's lives. 

Karla is working this year on living "A Year to Remember." Which has meant taking time to evaluate her life and activities and let God change her and fully direct her path.  "Living on purpose and with a purpose," has become a focus for her own life and I sense perhaps she's learning so that she can help the rest of us along the journey too. 

Part of that process is this two-week trip with no set schedule or plans, just meandering and enjoying each other's company and the Lord's direction.  Doesn't that sound like fun?  She's working on finding her focus, letting go of those things in life that are good ideas, but not the best and seeking where she can best be useful in the Lord's hands. 

I'll make sure we take lots of pictures and will post them here.  We'll take some next to the giant Sequoias so that you can see how really, really, really big they are.  They're the ONLY THING IN LIFE that you can see as a little child and then as a adult and will still seem as big to you as you remembered!  Have a great day!

Audrey Jeanne Roberts 

The Rest of the Story… the Rest of the Garden…

We are daily impacted by images of perfection.  Perfect runway models, perfect "Martha Stewartesque" homes, perfectly prepared and presented meals in magazines, perfect gardens, perfect, perfect, perfect… All contrasted with the realities of OUR bodies, OUR homes, OUR meals and OUR gardens.  Our hearts long for perfection, but we feel like such failures because no matter how hard we try, we simply cannot attain it. 

In fact, the bible tells us that God created us with a heart, body, soul and spirit that was perfect in the beginning, until we sinned and fell from grace.   I think that one of the most powerful evidences for the existence of originally perfect creation, is how passionately all of us long to return to it!  Watch any two year old child attempt a task for the first time.  He knows what perfection should look like and he gets furious because he can not attain it. 

the good the bad and the ugly! 

So what does this have to do with my garden?  I have learned a valuable lesson in life that I want to share with you… "Perfection isn't attainable, but excellence is."  I wanted to let you see my imperfections, so that you can become more comfortable sharing yours with those around you. 

 The images shown are the left and right sides of the same walkways.  I've had to pick places to work on and places to let go.  In a perfect world it would all look meticulously maintained… in my world, I just have to choose to look to the one side and look past the other!  But isn't that really how we all have to go through life?

I'm doing my best to live an honest, truthful and transparent life, which to me means revealing the "real" me to the people I share my life with.  Sometimes she's pretty crazy (my planting annuals in my bathrobe with my hair dye on story immediately comes to mind!)  Sometimes she's overwhelmed by the responsibilities and commitments this art licensing world places on her shoulders.   Some days she loves the world and others…. well, she wants to hide from it.  But all the time she seeks to bring joy to others and enjoy life herself.    

REALLY WEEDY! 

Living joyfully is learning to embrace that which is imperfect and yet delightful — to strive for excellence with every fiber of your being and be satisfied when you've done the best you can, with the time and resources you have.  This is my philosophy for every area of my life, and especially for my garden.

I only have  little bit of time available to tend to the garden, so I work to take charge of small areas at a time and confine my efforts to where I can make the biggest difference rather than trying to do everything at once.  I work on the areas closest to the house where I can enjoy them the most.  I work on the gardens with the best soil and growing conditions, so I get the most return on my effort.  And every so often my garden rewards me with a beautiful blossom like the spectacular Peony above, that I'll treasure forever because I get to paint it and share it with you.

Remember, perfection isn't achievable… excellence is!

Audrey Jeanne Roberts.

The Rest of the Story….

Okay, I've gotten incredibly wonderful feedback on my garden and hummingbird photos and lots of comments about "How can I do all of the art, design work and gardening?"  So, to show you that I DON'T GET IT ALL DONE and for all of you that don't believe I really am a lazy gardener, I have a post planned for later in the week called "The Rest of the Story… The Rest of the Garden!"  Watch for great photos of my weeds, undone patches, and left side of path versus right side of path shots!

I believe in transparent honesty in all areas of my life, including my garden.  So stay tuned!!!!

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

The Lazy Gardener’s Tips!

I keep telling you, I'm not a great gardener, I'm a lazy gardener that loves a beautiful garden.  So I'm going to share some of my favorite easy tips for a spectacular garden.dianthus

Pick flowers that bloom a long time with little attention!  Dianthus are some of my favorite for this.  They can live in full sun all the way into heavy shade, and literally bloom all year around where I live.  It's not at all unusual to see some blossoms with snow on them.  You can deadhead them for more blossoms, but I generally wait until they're pretty bloomed out and then give them a good overall "haircut."  In another month to six weeks they'll be blooming again.  They grow quite thick and can be divided every couple of years to fill out your garden.

 wild strawberries

 Use ground covers to keep down the weeds.  This second picture is of my wild mountain strawberries that are the ground cover in my fountain garden.  They were volunteers that got started about when I moved here and have now crowded out most of the weeds in this garden.  They have hot pink flowers and the tiniest, tastiest berries.  I choose ground covers that grow easily, bloom (if you don't flower you have no place in my garden!!!) and aren't overly invasive.  Be careful not to select something like vinca for a garden, as it will take over, climbing over the top of your other plants.

 

 

Layered bulbs

Plant layers of bulbs that bloom at different times.  This third picture is of one of my front raised beds.  There are bulbs that bloom from the very first of spring all the way into the summer planted here.  The first are the tulips and anenomes (almost bloomed out now) then the blue japanese iris, followed now by the yellow japanese iris and then there are miniature gladiolas that bloom for a couple of months finished up by the "naked ladies" or "magic lilies" that will appear in the heat of the summer.  You have to be careful to remember where the bulbs are when planting your summer perrenials in the same space.  Once they begin to spread and naturalize, if you dig into a cluster of bulbs or corms, just replant them and they'll grow just fine!  I just bought some Astilbe and some other summer bulbs to plant in this garden for middle to late summer color when this particular bed is pretty bloomed out.

Spend your money on perrenials that will come back year after year rather than annuals that last only one season.  Pay attention to perrenials that self-sow or grow quickly and can be divided such as day lilies or purple or white cone flower.  When you have an acre in gardens, these plants are the only way you can afford to be lush!

 

 

old fashioned roses

Roses aren't as hard to grow as you think.  I love old-fashioned roses with lots of fragrance and full blooms.  Two Mother's Days ago, my husband bought me 7 David Austin roses, the four you see in my front fountain garden and 3 in the back.  They are disease resistant, have lush foliage when they aren't blooming and have magnificent blossoms that are great for cutting and giving away!  The easiest way to grow roses is to buy a timed release fertilizer so you don't forget to feed them.  They're heavy feeders if you want great blooms.  Water them deeply (don't sprinkle from the top).  Cut off the spent blooms just above a 5 leaf cluster and then cut them back 1/3 at the appropriate time for your region. 

Gather seeds where ever you go and give them a try in your garden.  I carry snack sized ziploc bags and a sharpie marker in my purse and when I see something I like that has gone to seed I gather some of them, mark the flower name on the bag and take them home to give them a try.  Be sure and ask permission if you're gathering from someone's garden, but most gardener's love to share!  My Nanny used to say "Stolen cuttings grow best!" and would march right up into someone's yard whip out her scissors and take a cutting while I stood mortified watching her!

If you have a bad habit of leaving your water on too long, like I do, I found a wonderful new gadget that stops that from ever happening again.  I bought a water shut off timer valve that simply screws on to the faucet bib and you turn the timer for how long you want to water and walk away.  $15.88 at Home Depot will save me a lot more than that in the eletricity to run my well! 

Lastly, I had to share this picture I took of the hummingbirds taking a bath in my fountain this morning.  The one hummingbird that is bathing in the top of the fountain was there for a long time and the second hummingbird was getting irritated at having to stand in line! 

Hummingbird shower 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Have a great day in the garden! 

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

More Hummingbird Photos

My hummingbirds continue to arrive. I'm going to have to buy another feeder this summer I think. I currently have 2 on my patio and one outside of my studio window next to my fountain in the front.  On my back patio the birds will actually congregate more, the more feeders there are as the bully(s) end up running themselves ragged trying to defend against 18 feeding slots!

Hummingbirds at feeder

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hummingbirds only feed until dark, but I wanted to get some flash shots so I was able to shoot these at dusk.  There were about 25 hummingbirds in the area and 5 or 6 or more were on this feeder at a time.  There was another layer of birds hovering 3-4 feet outside of my viewfinder.  The one little bird directly in the front stayed there and fed the entire 10 minutes that I was taking photos.  I was afraid he wouldn't be able to fly when he was done!

If you've never seen hummingbirds in person, they make a humming sound when they fly, so I'm assuming that's how they got their name.  They also squeak and high-pitched chirp at each other, they're quite noisy little guys.  They are also fearless, they'll dive bomb a human if they're in the mood.  They won't actually hit you, but will try to scare you off.

The more birds that come in, the easier it is to get close-up shots.  They pay more attention to each other and I will actually be able to stand 2 feet away and get very close, close-ups.  I really like the flash shots so I'll try getting some even closer shots as the summer goes by.  Maybe I'll get lucky and catch the Rufous Hummingbird when he/she comes to feed one day.

Nancy's Kitchen readers, if you're looking for the Hummingbird nectar recipe it's 5 posts down.  Thanks for visiting.  My Aunt's the best isn't she?!  She's my special person who's as dear as a mother, aren't I blessed?!

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

My Hummingbirds are Back Full Force

Where we live, the hummingbirds come to spend the summer and we generally have 50 or more feeding at a time.  Right now we have about 2 dozen vying for spots at the feeders.  I spent a little time yesterday trying to capture them feeding together.  The more that arrive the more wild and crazy it gets out there!

four hummingbirds at feederThis year I have one special hummingbird that follows me around the yard everytime I water my pots.  He hovers about 3 feet away from me and darts around then comes back.  It's quite fun and entertaining.  At first I thought I was getting too close to the nest and he was going to attack me (hummingbirds are totally unafraid of size differences!) but then he just hovered and watched me at work.  Would you think me strange if I told you I talk to him?!  Don't answer that question!!!!

I get questions often on feeding hummingbirds, here's the recipe for the solution that I use, I pulled it from http://www.hummingbirds.net/feeders.html#recipe:

"Here is an article by Penny Elliston, a licensed hummingbird rehabilitator, about the dangers of relying too heavily on commercial mixes.

Please, do not put honey, Jell-O, brown sugar, fruit, or red food coloring in your feeder! Honey ferments rapidly when diluted with water and can kill hummingbirds. The effects of red dye have not been not scientifically tested, and it is not necessary to color the water to attract birds to your feeder. Further, there are unverified reports that red dye can cause tumors in hummingbirds; this may or may not be true, but why take the chance?

Here's the recipe for artificial nectar (syrup):

  • Use one part ordinary white cane sugar to four parts water.

     

  • It's not necessary to boil the water. The microorganisms that cause fermentation don't come from the water; they are transported to the feeder on hummingbird bills.

     

  • Store unused syrup in the refrigerator for up to two weeks.

This mixture approximates the average sucrose content (about 21%) of the flowers favored by North American hummingbirds, without being so sweet it attracts too many insects.

Distilled water may be used instead of tapwater. However, some researchers are concerned that distilled water lacks minerals that hummingbirds need, and believe it would be prudent to add a pinch of sodium-free salt, which contain potassium chloride, to feeder solutions made with distilled or demineralized water. This should help bring the salt content of artificial nectar back in line with that of natural nectar and help prevent electrolyte deficiencies. Do not use table salt (sodium chloride). Adding salt is not necessary if well or tap water is used.

Any syrup solution will spoil rapidly in warm weather and especially in direct sunlight, so strict maintenance is required (see below). (Article continues on the site for more information)"

When Jacqui gets home from college, she has a digital camera that takes video, so I'll try to figure out how to post a video clip of the chaos of feeding time, you'll get a kick out of it!

Mentioning Jacqui, my pilot girl has finished her semester at school and is moving out of the dorm today, but has 8 flight activities left to secure her private pilot's license before she heads home.  I would appreciate it if you would pray for her to remember everything for her final check ride with the FAA!  She's studying hard and when she comes home she's going to rent a plane locally, maybe she'll take her Mama up for a tour?!  I can't wait for her to be home annoying me and kicking me out of my art studio (her bedroom!)

Have a great day!

AJ 

Spring’s Full Glory

Oh my!  I can't begin to show you how beautiful this spring is here in the mountains.  I've been spending as much time as I can spare away from my computer and art desk to work out in the yard (to beautify the surroundings and to help minimize my waistline!)  I've never been much for exercise videos and routines, I like my exercise to produce dual results!  My thigh muscles are absolutely aching from bending over and pulling weeds and I won't even go into the shoulder muscles!!

my gardenThe clematis is blooming for the very first time after planting it I think 2 years ago.  There's another clematis that is climbing up the trunk of the ginko tree in the picture to the right of it.  It's going to be so fun to watch it bloom.  Being a warm country girl all my life, I could never grow clematis, peonies or tulips (my peony is going to bloom in about a week or two, yippee!!!) 

If only I could capture the heavenly fragrances.  My rose arbor has miniature roses that smell incredibly lemony and you can smell them all the way up to the house.  I think that the roses really love getting a harder freeze.  They haven't looked this spectacular in the three years we've been here.

I'm a lazy gardener, Martha Stewart is quite safe from me… my goal is to enjoy my garden, not to spend endless hours in it.  I have a couple of lazy gardener's tips to share today.  If there is a task that you can find a way to do once in a season, do it.  There are wonderful timed released fertilizers now that work for an entire season and perfectly release the right amount of fertilizer as it's needed.  I used to think that they were more expensive until I realized that they were actually less expensive!  They cost slightly more than their counterparts, but you only use them once so they end up being nearly 1/2 as expensive overall not counting the time you invest putting them down.

The same goes for treating paths for weeds.  If you can use a once a year weed killer, it costs just a little more initially but significantly less overall.  Just be careful to read the directions and warnings.  You can't use a yearly weed killer directly under trees or in the drip lines of bushes etc. 

For any of you that don't have a garden, buy some beautiful plant pots and add them to your patio or front porch.  There's something that just lifts our spirits about enjoying the beauty of flowers.

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

Little Secrets For a Great Marriage.

In church today, we met up with a young couple that are the daughter and son-in-law of the music minister. They were married perhaps 6 weeks ago and are very happy, but also discovering that marriage is very, very different from dating!  They had attended Family Life's "Weekend to Remember" as an engaged couple and we were talking about their attending it again now that they're married. 

The young bride said, "Things that never bothered me at all are really starting to bug me.  We're in such a different place now, I'm sure that the conference will speak to us in a much different way."  For those of us that have been married for a while (or a long while) we chuckle a little.  We can easily remember back to those early days of struggle we experienced, and perhaps from time to time still experience!

I shared a thought with her, "When we're single, it's like we get to wear many different pairs of shoes.  We have different roles and relationships in life that we're changing in and out of, so if one bugs us, it's no big deal switch out to another pair.  But when we're married we've narrowed things down to  one pair of work boots that we wear every day.  If they start to chaff or we get a little stone in them, it's important to attend to it early not let it rub us until we're raw." 

Marriage is always a challenge.  We are in very close proximity, in good times and through difficult situations.  We come to know our mate's strengths and weaknesses more than anyone else's on earth.  When one of their idiosyncracies or weaknesses starts to bug us, we have a choice to make… magnify it and let it build until we're raw and blistered over it, or work to resolve the issue or come to acceptance about it. 

The operative word is work at it.  Great marriages don't happen by an accident of fate, they are built one conflict resolved at a time, one challenge overcome together at a time, one day of frustration and irritation worked through, one decision to love, one decision of compromise and one decision to give the benefit of the doubt at a time.  True, lasting love isn't a feeling, it's a decision that we make day after day, week after week, year after year.  The amazing thing is that when we choose to love… more often than not, the feelings of love stay strong and even grow.

When we were early in our marriage 12 years ago, Steve and I read a Reader's Digest article together (we read out loud to each other all the time, I highly recommend it to help you draw together).  This article was from a woman who was celebrating her 45th Anniversary and was asked her secret for a successful marriage. 

She replied, "Early in our marriage, my husband and I decided that each of us only had 3 flaws and determined that we would never list the 3 flaws at one time.  So whenever he got on my nerves or let me down, I would say "It's only one of his three flaws!"  We laughed, but we also adopted the attitude and it may sound silly, but it works!  Our children are so familiar with our saying that they complete it for us before we have a chance.  They've learned that Dad isn't perfect, but Mom appreciates who he is as a man and makes sure that they do to. 

When I leave frozen food out on the counter because I was distracted by my computer, decided to check my email and never made it back to the kitchen, my husband picks up the half-melted food and puts it back in the refrigerator saying, "It's only one of her three flaws."

When my husband says, "I'll mow the yard until it gets dark and then come in for dinner."  I begin dinner and when he doesn't come in until 9 PM (we have 5 acres of mountainside and meadow) and dinner's stone cold I laugh and say, "It's only one of your three flaws!"  Then I warm dinner up in the microwave and the issue is over. 

It helps us to focus on the positive characteristics that we each have rather than the areas that we lack.  Some of our areas of lack are simply not possible to be changed… the artist (me) is never going to be the organized, on-top-of-everyone's-schedule mom… EVER!!!!  My creative, wonderfully-sensitive husband is NEVER going to be the super-CPA-every-bit-of-business-super-organized-and-accounted-for kind of a husband — and I wouldn't trade who he is for who he isn't! 

Accepting one another's limitations and in many ways minimizing those that aren't life-damaging (we're not talking about abusiveness or destructive behaviors here) is one of the ways that we "break in the boots" and make them comfortable, hard-working, and functional.  Think about it for a moment, for a ball, a pair of sparkling, diamond-studded glass slippers might be quite cute, and that's a little like what dating is like.  But for getting things done in life, a great, comfortable pair of boots will beat them out every day of the week… the same is true of a great mate!  

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

An Absolutely Fascinating Link For You Today!

I used to describe Michelle Allen as the daughter of my dear friend, Karla Dornacher.  But now I describe Michelle as MY friend.  She is an amazing artist, business woman and absolutely hilarious to boot.  Well… Michelle is in China working with her factory to produce a line of ceramics and resin products that are just awesomely cute and fun.  Her art is like nothing you've ever seen and yet so warm and charming… We especially love her coffee themed items!

Link to Michelle's Blog

This morning, Michelle shows a picture of a new clock that she's custom designing (probably for a catalog company) that's really fun.  Her clocks have fun little pendulums like a mouse dangling from a cat's mouth trying to get away. 

She's been blogging each day from the factory and you simply MUST see the toilet facilityBlush… simply unbelievable… I suggested to Michelle that they "upgrade" their facilities at their company for the employees.  EEeeeeeewwwww!

Michelle is working on her website and when she gets it completed I'm going to feature more of her art.  I love getting to know other artists… they bring beauty to my life.  Thanks Michelle for sharing your trip with us.

To go to Michelle's blog click on the photo and a new window will pop up and take you there.  She's also always listed in my Blogroll in the column to the right.

I'm going to finish my quilting fabric today I think — I HOPE!  Perhaps I can give you a sneak peek after it debuts at the Quilt Market the first of May.  Have a great day!

Audrey Jeanne Roberts

Back to the Dark Ages!

We woke up this morning and were relaxing with our coffee and news when our power went out at about 7:00 AM.  We called the electric company and found out it wouldn't come on until around 4:30.  If it hasn't happened to you lately, you just can't believe what being without power is like now in the internet age!!!!

I wandered around not knowing what to do with myself… I'd wander into my studio to check out my blog… reach for the computer and realize, no power — no computer!  It was so quiet.  I would reach to turn on the TV or the radio and realize, no power — no connection with the outside world.  Suddenly I realized that I had important emails out and no way of answering them if someone sent me a response.  It's always a little unnerving when you can't receive emails because the people that depend on email expect that you will get them!  No power — no connection with work.

We have a well that pumps from almost a 1,000 feet underground and up our hill 350 ft. to the house and we have no holding tank, so no power — no water!  Fortunately, we keep 5 gallon buckets of water around for the ummmm how can I delicately express this, taking care of necessary bodily functionsEmbarassed.

Well, one of the great things that came out of this day is that I cleaned 2/3rd of my studio!  I can actually see white countertops and there's an entire 40 gallon trash can full of "stuff" ready to be hauled away. 

I also read 4 or 5 magazines and actually enjoyed them (rather than skimming images for trends, colors images and then tossing them into my resource pile).  It was an amazingly relaxing, slower paced day, one that reminded me a lot of how life was almost every day twenty-five years ago.  I realized that I'm not certain that technology is always improving the quality of our lives unless we master it rather than the other way around.

I am often a slave to my email.  For example, when I came back on line this afternoon there were 114 emails waiting for me!  Talk about stress!!!  Most of them were from two discussion groups that I belong to, but still each had to be read at least the title, sorted through and some responded to.  Only a couple required a physical response.

I came to a radical conclusion today, maybe a no technology day one day a month might go a long way towards feeling more rested and relaxed… that and  cleaner studio.  Only if the power doesn't fail, I'm not sure I have the emotional strength to "pull the plug" on my own.  How about you?!

Audrey Jeanne Roberts